We live in our society. It is made up of different castes and sub-castes.
There are different traditions and cultures. Some of the traditions are good, but not all of them. Dowry system is one of the social evils which is in practice till now. Dowry is the property or money given to the bride to take her husband’s house when she gets married. This evil system is especially practiced in the Terai of our country.
Nowadays, dowry is a major factor when someone gets married. The bridegroom’s family proposes the amount of dowry. And if the bride’s family agrees it, the marriage program is organized. But the dowry should be given on the day of marriage ceremony. The bridegroom can deny the marriage if he does not get decided dowry. It is the worst aspect of this system.
Bride’s parents want their daughter to have a prosperous life. They want to support her economically. They certainly love their daughter. But in dowry system, the money and other things are not given to her for her happiness; rather they are given to make the bridegroom agree to get married to her. Nowadays, the bridegrooms demand more property from the bride’s family. Thus, this social evil has commercialized marriage contract and conjugal life.
This system is certainly disadvantageous. Firstly, the relation between brides and bridegrooms cannot be sound. The bridegrooms treat the brides badly if they think the given dowry is not enough. We can see and hear many crimes connected to the issues of dowry. Some brides are badly beaten by their husbands. They urge their wives to bring additional property. Unfortunately, the struggle between the bride and bridegroom destroys their entire life. Many newly married women are compelled to abandon their husband’s house. This system often invites fatal disasters in the conjugal life. Some of the newly married women are compelled to abandon their husbands house. This system often invites fatal disasters in the conjugal life. Some of the newly married women are murdered by their husbands as the result of dowry system. What a savage brutality!
Nowadays, this system has been developed as the source of earning property for unmarried males. Many good girls cannot get good husbands if their parents are not well off. The bride’s families feel that they have bought the boys for their daughters. The boys are treated as the goods of the market. Newly married spouses cannot be reapportioned with each other. Therefore this system should be either eradicated or reformed.
I think that this system should be banned by law. All the educated girls and boys should discourage and avoid this system when they get married. The parents of the girls should educate their daughters properly., if the girls are educated, they can find good husbands themselves. At any cost, this system should be wiped our for a well-cultured and civilized society.